She said...it's never to late to say "I'm sorry"

I love my Tuesday, Thursday and every other Friday mornings :)  Yes, I am a part-time working "mommy" and I love it.  I teach at a small school only twenty minutes from my home.  So really...I have the best of both worlds...I love my job and I absolutely cherish my time at home with our youngest.  He is 16 months, and growing more and more everyday.  Our oldest is 6, and is in school full time...and I miss him like crazy.  It's hard once they start school and you realize that those weekdays at home are gone.  Of course I am blessed to have vacations and holidays at home with my boys.  And luckily our little guy loves school, so that makes things much easier on us!

As I sat here, on my couch earlier today, I pondered my morning up until now and how relaxing my days off can be once I get my two boys (hubby and oldest) out the door with lunches made and bags packed.  I started off by making the baby a yummy hot breakfast... a little change from the dry cereal my husband oh so wonderfully described!  Yes, perhaps there are Cheerios flying around the room or getting crushed under our feet as we prepare ourselves for the day, but they are often accompanied by some fresh fruit, or toast...come on hun...give us a little more credit ;) 

After our yummy breakfast, and some playtime, we curled up on the couch under a fuzzy blanket to watch Elmo's World, which I have programmed to record every Tuesday and Thursday morning.  He loves it and I do too...that show gets me the most cuddle time...10 minutes today!!!!  

After settling in under our blanket, we were immediately startled by a huge gust of wind outside, which turned my front yard into a mini blizzard with all of the blowing snow.  The baby immediately went back to Elmo, and my mind went somewhere else...to yesterday morning.  Let me tell you...it wasn't one of my finest moments, and my husband was...let's just say...pleasantly frustrated with me...oops!  I have come to the simple conclusion, that yes, mornings are always crazy, but mornings during a Canadian winter can be even crazier!

So...after dropping off both kids and rushing to work to make it on time, my wonderful husband (yes ladies, remember Valentine's Day is just two days away) was lucky enough to hear that distinct ring from his Blackberry..."the wife", as he would say.  Yep it was me, calling from my van which was stuck in a snowbank at the end of the driveway!!!  Apparently I wasn't paying enough attention while I was backing out of our driveway with the music blaring and a tea in hand.  After 10 minutes of trying to "fix" my situation with two different shovels, I realized it was helpless, and therefore had no choice but to call my lifeline...my hubby.   So after his 15 minute commute back to our home, and the time it took him to get me out, his well intentioned morning of getting his wife off to work nice and early, sadly resulted in both of us being late!

I have fully accepted the fact that I, and I alone am to blame for that unfortunate situation.  I am truly sorry hun!! This is one rare occasion where it was completely my fault :)  Wow...that was much easier to write, then to say aloud.  And there it is...the first step in our "therapeutic journey" has just begun!!  

Happy Valentine's Day!! 

                        

   

My turn she said.......he said

It's funny that I thought this was going to be easier then it actually is. I must have started typing and then erased my progress at least 30 times before I got this far. Now I know why my English teacher in high school didn't mind so much when I had to leave class for a sporting event.  Mainly because she didn't want to sit there and watch me wear out the eraser on the end of my yellow pencil, leaving black rubbery bits all over my desk and my paper. I would often sit there and see how far I could flick the tiny rolled bits throughout the classroom. OK......not sure exactly how that trip down memory lane came about, but I am hoping that the therapy I might achieve from writing this blog with my wife will keep me from having to pay a real therapist to help me get over the trauma I suffered in my English class....lol. 

My wife did a good job of describing how this whole idea of us blogging together came about....or did she?  Yes, it is true that with two kids at home under the age of 6, it is difficult to find "us" time. The days start off with my blackberry alarm going off at 6am (I know....there is literally no chance I am actually going to get up at that time) and my wife telling me to "shut it off.....why do you bother setting it when you don't get out of bed till 7ish.?".   I guess I think, that maybe one day it will actually happen. 

My wife is out of bed at 6:30am religiously.  The news is turned on and she is sipping her tea by 6:33am. While I roll out of bed at 7ish,wishing that Juan Valdaz stopped by my house with his donkey to let me sample his delectable coffee on his trip back to the Colombian mountains . It then seems that everything swells from that point on. Get the baby changed and dressed, put him in high chair with a bunch of different dry cereal to munch on. Wake up the 6 year old, try to convince him to get dressed and eat without any help because "he is a big boy now". (never seems to help....as I know...that he knows.....that I know....that I will end up doing it anyways to help speed up the process) Make a smoothy for my wife, let the dogs out, feed the dogs, grab a diet coke from the back for her lunch, start the cars, try and get the dried cereal off the bottom of my socks that the baby has flung on the floor in pure protest of having to eat the same cereal day after day. Negotiate with my 6 year old that if he can hurry and get his boots and coat on we might have enough time to go to Tim Hortons before school and get a treat. When really I just want a coffee. The coffee that I didn't seem to have enough time to make at home before I left because "I didn't get up when my alarm went off". As much as I understand why my wife gets up half hour before the rest of us to have her tea and relax before the start of the chaos.....it is still 30 min more of sleep that I get.  

The mornings are rushed and the evening are short, just based on the time that we get home from work. Funny that my wife stated that I fell asleep on the couch while she was writing her piece last night, (as if it were a regular occurance...ya right....okay....maybe sometimes). When tonight she was TKO'd by 9:45 on the couch, leaving me to watch American Idol all by myself......shhhh don't tell anyone. 

All in all as I sit back and look at her sleeping on the couch I realize that she too gets tired. Tired from being a great mom, a great wife, a great teacher and friend. (bet she feels bad about saying that I can annoy her often after reading this.) (actually....now that I think about it.....this is probably one of those moments she was talking to about...lol). 

Anywhooo......there you go. This is me...and this is how I write. Run on sentences, poor grammar and broken sentences sometimes. I am married to a teacher who will inevitably point out all of my grammeracle errors and spelling mistakes........but that's okay....she has been the best teacher that I have had so far in life....and I get to drive her crazy everyday.

Yes she did do a good job.  This is our therapy, our together time. Although we are not actually, literally writing it together, I have a feeling that we have just started down a new road......the question is.....to where?

She said...a little intro to "us"

Hello to all!!!  I would like to start by saying that this is my very first blog...ever, and I am a little nervous to say the least.  I have many worries going through my head...will I be too boring, what do I say, do I have the ability to be funny?  I have a friend who is a social media queen, she dominates Facebook by posting her every move throughout the day...I pretty much know what all of her meals look like before she eats them!!!  She has many blogs and is part of every social community out there.  She is constantly trying to get me to do more.  I haven't told her about this yet...she'll be so proud!  Don't get me wrong,  I've always been fascinated with the idea of sharing my thoughts and ideas to those that find them interesting, but at the same time, the idea is a little frightening...it's the perfect example of a situation where you are "really putting yourself out there".  But I thought to myself, now is the perfect time if I am going to do this.  My kids are peacefully sleeping...including my husband who fell asleep on the couch beside me at least an hour ago, and here I am, left with my thoughts, and one of my favourite shows "Hart of Dixie".  Of course I had to pause it on my PVR, or should I say my lifeline,  in order take time to get this started!  When my hubby falls asleep, it's an hour that I love by myself.  We enjoy many TV shows together, but this was one that he was happy to check out of.

As was mentioned in our little description, this blog is going to be a joint effort.  My hubby and I decided that creating a blog together could be healthy for our relationship...we'll see!!  Life is busy with two kids and two working parents.  I am blessed to only work part time, while I spend the other half at home with our youngest.  But still...all you parents out there know what it's like...as moms and dads, we are constantly wearing so many hats (parent, employee, taxi driver, coach, sibling, son, daughter, housekeeper, nurse etc...) that sometimes we forget the one that says, "husband" and "wife". We don't take enough time for each other these days, and we really feel the effects on our personal relationship.  In one of our recent conversations, as we were wearing our "husband" and "wife" hat, we concluded that the only time we really have to dedicate to each other is pretty much everyday after 8:30pm, when the kids are finally asleep.  What do you do at 8:30pm on a Tuesday when you both have to work the next morning?  Well...that's when we came up with this little brilliant idea...let's blog together!  There are so any instances in life where husband and wives disagree on very small and very large everyday issues...whether it be a major purchase or simply deciding on what to have for dinner.  We each have our own perspectives and our own very strong opinions...lol...and sometimes we don't take the time to really talk about them, which can create tension.  So, our idea is to blog about such instances...we thought it was perfect...we could write her side/his side about the things/situations that make us happy, sad or crazy, and share them with each other while sharing them with all of you!   Of course, "his side" is going to have to get on here much earlier in the evening if this is really going to work!  I guess working in construction and landscaping doesn't go hand in hand with late night blogging.  I set up this page days ago, so I told him I would take the first shift...I'll have to let him know he's on deck in the morning :)

I am going to finish by saying...I love my husband...but I don't think there's another person in the world that can drive me crazy, in good ways and bad, more than him.  I'm sure you will see that sentiment reflected on here from time to time...lol!!

Goodnight!